Relationship Talks With Oyin: Every Weekend Relationship Tonic
"No man is an island" is indeed a true saying as we can not leave without relating or associating with one another. Either in our social, career or emotional lives we are bound to relate with one another. It is therefore safe to say that as Humans, relationships are a part of our existence that we can not do without.
This forum " Relationship Talks with Oyin" is a medium where we shall be deliberating and confiding in each other on the various challenges we all face in our love relationships with a view to proffering solutions to them together by the special grace of God.
We look forward to a great time together as we embark on this soul searching journey with "Oyin" as she is fondly called by her loved ones.
You are invited to come on board and be a part of this deeply outstanding journey as we share and educate each other.
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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where that special person that means the whole world to you lives thousands of miles away from you and you really can't do anything about it? "Out of sight they say is out of mind". How true is this saying? What do we do when for obvious reasons that can't be avoided our loved one has to go far away from us? How do we manage a relationship with someone who lives far away from us and still keep the passion alive and real?
On a personal note, I have never really been an advocate of long distance relationships or being separated from a loved one for a long period of time because of the pain that comes with it; but I have since come to realize that life itself is a risk and you have little or no control over who your hearts decides to beat for and what happens after falling in love with someone. At some point in our lives, we are bound to take some chances and when it’s a long distance relationship, making it work can be quite tasking but in the end worth the while. After all whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well!!! It is good to know that when the purpose or intent of a thing is not known, its abuse might become inevitable. It is therefore important the relationship is well defined by both parties as this will further enhance their commitment to the common cause of the relationship
Long Distance relationship can be classified into two types:
One, when two people in love have been together for a while and at a point in time one of them has to be away for reasons that can’t be avoided. The other type is when both parties have never been together but met through the social media or at a function/party. Both ways the reason and possible duration of this separation has to be well defined and understood by both parties. The end objective of this long/short period of separation is paramount as it would serve as the driving force to keep the lovebirds going in spite of any challenges they might face in the course of the relationship.
COMMUNICATION as in every successful relationship is a fundamental building block . Ensure you communicate with your lover on a daily basis and possibly several times too. Send texts/chats in the morning, during the day to ask how their day is going and at night to wish them a good night rest. Thanks to modern technology, you can video chat, text, and send detailed emails which goes a long way to show you can spare time out of your busy schedule to get across to them. These acts will help build and strengthen your love for each other as these reassure you both of how much you mean one to each other. Never give them the impression that you are too busy to talk or listen to them. Try working around your busy schedule to talk, though, this may seem impossible, but it is quite realistic. Tell yourself that if you can take your bath, eat, listen to the news, or even take a nap daily, then you can do it! Ensure they are carried along.
The need to trust and believe in each other cannot be overemphasized, as being so far away from each other may become very frustrating at some point, especially when the need arises to see, feel or touch them and they are not there. Negative and unpleasant thoughts might want to start creeping into our heads. Don’t allow or entertain these thoughts. Trust them enough to believe in them. Don’t listen to what anyone might be saying except you were never sure of what you have together right from the onset.
Be open one to each other; don’t entertain doubts about whatever he/she tells you. If you have any doubts, call their attention to it and trash it out together amicably. Your partner should know your friends and carry them along when going out with your friends, if you feel it’s necessary. Keep your trust account full at all times! Inasmuch as you have to be open to each other, don’t keep tabs on your partners. It’s a sign of insecurity and shows lack of confidence. It will only scare your partner away from you. Schedule visits at regular intervals, where this is possible otherwise try working out a visiting plan that will be suitable for both of you.
Try doing things in common even while at a distance. Work towards a common goal. If you are not as busy as your partner, get busy. Add value to yourself. Work at becoming a better person and share what you have learned with your partner. You could watch same movies at the same time despite the distance. Keep their pictures close by, where you can steal a peek if necessary. You never can tell, yo
u know. Imagine them sleeping beside you and you will be amazed at the feeling of oneness you will have. Absence makes the heart grow fonder; living at quite a distance from each other could actually be used to your advantage. You tend to value every moment you spend together, either while visiting or when video chatting.
This brings to mind a rather intimate subject, especially for couples who have been together before having to be separated from one another. I see nothing wrong in getting intimate with your loved one over the phone or while video chatting as this will only go a long way to create a longer lasting bond between you two. Make your partner know how much you miss them. How you feel whenever you talk to them or think about them. Be sincere about this, no pretence. Remember he/she is at a distance from you, knowing they are desired even when they are not with you reassures them of your affection for them. Like I always say to myself, you can get it, if you try hard enough. Don’t deprive yourself of that happiness because he/she is far away and you already are looking at calling it quits.
Look deep within your and ask; is he/she really worth having in your life? If yes! Then you have no excuse! Set the ball rolling and make a commitment to make it work against all odds this New Year. Do all that is needful as distance is no barrier to true Love! You both deserve to be happy and you both can make it happen for REAL!!! Wishing you all a Love filled New Year!!! Have a Wonderful weekend! Cheers!